Work can present many different scenarios that drain your social battery. From back-to-back meetings to post-work socials, the amount of social contact can start to take a toll, especially if you’re neurodivergent. Find out how to set boundaries and fully recharge in this helpful, easy-read blog.
When people talk about having a low “social battery”, they’re usually referring to being drained from too much socialising. In our busy modern world, constant connectivity means we’re socialising in more ways than ever before, from face-to-face interactions to the relentless buzz of our phones. Over time, this can become exhausting.
If you often find yourself feeling tired after too much socialising, you too may find it useful to view your capacity for socialising as a battery. That way, you can imagine your energy levels on a scale and spot when you might need time to recharge.
If your social battery is running low at work, you might feel:
If these feelings crop up regularly after socialising, it may be a sign that you need some time alone. But if you’re concerned about fatigue or are experiencing physical symptoms you didn’t have before, be sure to speak to your GP to rule out other causes.
There are lots of reasons why one person’s social battery can be different from another’s. Your social battery can be influenced by:
Your personality type: If you’re more of an introvert than an extrovert, you may find that just a small amount of socialising starts to tire you.
Your brain: If you’re neurodivergent, especially if you have autism and/or ADHD, you may find socialising exhausting due to masking or the extra mental effort needed to process social cues.
Your work: If your day requires intense mental concentration, or if you work in a role that demands constant customer or client interaction, your social battery may already be running on empty before the workday even ends.
Your mental state: If you have social anxiety or get nervous around others, socialising can cause intense stress, which can start to impact how you feel physically.
You may relate to multiple points on this list. Quite often, a low social battery stems from a combination of factors. It’s not necessarily just one thing.
So, you’ve decided you need to protect your social battery at work, but how do you do it?
Luckily, there are some helpful ways you can set boundaries and prevent an unnecessary crash. Here are some simple steps to take:
When working through these steps, try not to compare yourself. Remember: each person is different when it comes to social energy, so it’s important not to beat yourself up if you need more alone time than others.
If you’re a manager looking to support staff with varying social energy needs, you can make a big difference with some simple actions.
Acknowledging difference: Acknowledge that different people have different capacities for socialising – it’s not fair to throw someone in at the deep end just to “test them” or force them to be highly sociable if they’re clearly not comfortable. While as a manager you may want to push staff out of their comfort zones from time to time, it’s also vital to recognise that doing so too often can lead to stress and physical exhaustion. Demonstrate neuro-inclusivity by taking it slow and respecting boundaries.
Encourage honest conversations: Having open conversations during 1:1s is the best way to establish what works for your staff. If you provide a safe, confidential space to explore things like workload, social pressures, and general wellbeing, you’re far more likely to catch any issues early before they escalate into burnout or absence.
Consider restructuring the workday: Ask yourself: does every meeting truly need to be a meeting? Do staff have enough quiet, uninterrupted time in their day? Cutting back on unnecessary social time will give everyone a break, especially those who feel drained more easily.
And don’t forget to lead by example. If you’re open about your own need for boundaries and downtime, it signals to the rest of the team that it’s safe to do the same.
When we socialise, the brain processes and manages lots of different information. We’re listening, taking in facial expressions and gestures, managing emotions, anticipating responses, and speaking. If you’re neurodivergent or more introverted, you may find that these actions don’t “just happen” automatically; you may have to put in extra mental effort. This can make you feel tired or burnt out.
Absolutely. The best way to increase your capacity for socialising is to break up social time into chunks and address any anxiety or overthinking socialising causes. Gradually exposing yourself to more social situations can help build confidence and make interactions feel less draining over time. It’s also important to balance social activities with adequate rest, so you can recharge without becoming overwhelmed.
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